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Welcome to Limitless!  ~ Happy New Year guysssss!!!🥳🥳🥳🥳 Look at us being in big 2025. God brought us here; so so grateful!  I remember a day from when I was in primary school. That was sometime in 2008. I was writing the day’s date on the top-left corner of my notebook as we’d normally do.  Then, I wondered what it will be like to be in a 2020 kind of year. I could not really wrap my head around the fact that there was going to be a 2020-something. I wondered what I would be doing by then. Would Jesus have come? Where will I be? I would probably be a millionaire already, with my own private jet. Lollll. Well, now look at me right in the middle of the 2020’s, doing adulthood things, and living it to the fullest. I’m grateful for this life I’ve got.  Time flies, I tell ya. It’s the same way I’m here wondering what 2060 will look like.  Have you ever wondered what you might be doing by then, or where you might be.  It’s just so interesting that God knows t...

Welcome to Limitless!  Is the world coming to an end in 2024, or why is everyone getting married???😳 I didn’t get the memo.  Okay okay. I digress. That’s not why I’m here.  ~ I’m just here to wake you who has been falling asleep spiritually.  Trust me, I’m not here to judge or point fingers.  Have I had my hot and cold moments this year? Yes ma’am. I’ve had moments where I felt like I was literally close to God and at his literal feet this year. I’ve had moments where I could feel my heart almost exploding from how real being in the presence of Jesus was. I’m such a lover of God’s presence. I’ve had encounters: Encounters that have left an indelible mark on me. Right.  Let’s continue.  Meanwhile, I’ve also had moments where I would doze through my morning devotion; you know, because the flesh is weak right? Pause. We tend to forget that though the flesh is weak, the Spirit is always willing. Therefore, I understand that because I am born of the Spirit...

Welcome to Limitless!  I have deleted and edited, made several drafts, continued writing the story “Kárunwí, but today, I would like to bring back one of my blog posts from 2022!  The year is drawing to an end, and I want to ask you, how well have you protected your space? Really well? Good. Some slip-ups? It’s part of life!  We do not beat ourselves up in blaming ourselves about how we’ve slipped up with protecting our spaces, rather, we work on the boundaries we can put in place to ensure they don’t happen next time. So, no matter how bad you think you’ve slipped up in protecting your space. You can still get back on track.  Here are ways I think we could protect our spaces better. Of course, these are just suggestions; please feel free to leave out the things that might not work for you. Enjoy!  ~ To be honest, there would always be a hurdle. However, how we decide to cross it is entirely left in our hands.  Would you step back from the hurdle, get stuck...

  Welcome to Limitless!  ~ I listened to motivational speakers today.  When I got back to the sanctity of my home, I looked into my mirror and said, “Morolake, you did a great job today”. I laughed out loud after realizing the words I just uttered. Did I just pull a motivational speech on myself?  As laughable as it MAY sound, I would like to emphasize that it is so much needed sometimes.  I mean, I had had a super long day that I got back to my house by 1am after leaving my house before 10am the previous day. The most time I got alone was 10 minutes. Trust me, it was a longggg day.  After I told myself that I was doing a great job, it dawned on me, as a quick reminder, to always pat myself on the back.  It’s a bit of delusion (delulu) to always expect people to clap for you when you are not even clapping for yourself.  Can I shock you? Some people will never recognize your worth.  It is entirely up to you to know your worth, carry yourself w...

Welcome to Limitless!  Sis! Slow down and rest! Brother! Slow down and rest!  Take a break! Work no dey finish. This means work doesn’t have an end. There will always be something to do.  I know for those of us that are already working, we most likely have expectations that we should meet after a particular period. I know that, perhaps, some of us want to exceed those expectations. Yes, by all means exceed those expectations, but not at the detriment of your wholistic wellbeing.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for “whatever your hands find to do, do with your might…” . I work hard and, and I believe in giving your best to your work. However, I think that there should be a good balance.  I do not wish bad on anyone, but have you seen how quickly companies move on after losing a member of staff? They move on so quickly that as soon as the person passes, they are already looking for someone else to take the place of the deceased. I mean, they have to do what they hav...

Photo from Annie Spratt on Unsplash  Welcome to Limitless!  ~ The forbidden dungeon I had sworn to never return to stared at me right in the eye, and I could hear its sardonic laughter.  I shifted from one hip to the other and wiped the sweat gathering at my furrowed eyebrows. This same place? How pathetic.   You know what is more pathetic? The filthy dress hanging from the shoulder of Ínkpí, the youngest of my seven sisters as she flung the door open.  “Kárunwí”, she screamed with wide eyes. “You shouldn’t be here. Father will kill you”. She moved to slam the door, but I caught it. This little brat.  “I am here for that exact reason. He has to kill me. And are you out of your senses? Were you just about to slam the door in my face? If you don’t MOVE out of my way!!!”  I waddled through my father’s veranda into the kitchen.  Smoke. Fish. The pungent smell of oil burning on firewood. “Kárunwí!” my immediate younger sister screamed and jumped off he...

  Welcome to Limitless!  First things first. I deeply apologize for being away for two whole weeks. Apparently, I got carried away with the vacation life that I took off from my Blog. I hope you didn’t miss me too much?  All the tea about my vacation is on my Instagram page @ji_rola. Let’s just say I had the most amazing time. Now, I’m looking forward to my next vacation. So, I’m here to discuss something with you guys. There’s this video I saw that I found quite questionable. There was this man who was, maybe too shy, to tell the waiter that they mixed up his order. So, his wife stood up for him. Then, in the process of his wife standing up for him, she was rude to the waiter.  I was just thinking, even if a waiter gets your order wrong, you could tell them politely and not make such a rude fuss about it.   As someone who has witnessed customers being rude to service people multiple times, let me just say it is a really nasty attitude.  I was at a store on...

Welcome to Limitless!  Life is too short to not express your love for people.  One of the things I hope will never happen to me is to write a note of how much I love someone after they’ve passed on, meanwhile, I never showed or said how much I love them when they were alive.  It is such a sad thing to think of.  I really hope the people around me feel deeply loved by me as much as I’m trying my best to express my love to them.  Often times, I would text some friends who I’ve not talked to in a while just to say hi, and they would tell me they were just thinking of me, or they thought about me earlier in the week. I always find that really amusing. Call people when they cross your mind, text them if you cannot call them, pray for them if you can do neither of the two.  One fun fact about me is I feel deeply loved when people check on me; maybe because I do it a lot, so it just feels super nice when people do the same to me.  I think it’s also greatly im...

Welcome to Limitless!  This topic is long overdue.  You’ve probably heard about the entitlement mentality before.  Why does she act in such an entitled manner? Why is he so entitled? Yeah. Let’s talk about it.  The entitlement mentality is the belief that you should receive something from someone even when you have done nothing to deserve it or you are not in the position to receive it.  Quick story yeah? I went for The Outpouring with my friends in September 2023. On our way into the venue, one of my friends said she wanted water, and I replied with something like “I think they would have water in the venue though”. My friend then responded with something like “I actually don’t expect anything to be free”.  At that moment, it occurred to me that I had an entitlement mentality for a second there. From that point, I think I’ve been more conscious of not being entitled.  Do you know the funniest part of this entitlement mentality? It’s people who are ent...

Welcome to Limitless!  I am in love with the evolution of Christian films in Nigeria. I mean, the details and extra care put into them to ensure the story lines reflect modern day issues are remarkable.  I absolutely love watching Christian Nigerian films! Not only are they edifying, they are also interesting and riveting. Boy! I’m so happy Christian content is being pushed out there.  Here are currently my top 5 Nigerian Christian Films!  5. What About Us? Photo from @pst_iren via Instagram  I definitely want to see this movie! I watched the trailer and it looked really interesting. Have you seen it? I think it’s only in Nigerian cinemas for now. I really hope I get to watch it!  4. Abejoye  Photo from @jay_mikee via Twitter  You just have to love Abejoye . From the cast, to the costumes, to the location, to the plot, to the makeup. 100 over 100!!! My favorite character after Abejoye is Kinkinyiun. Her scenes literally give me goosebumps. I love ...

Welcome to Limitless!  It feels surreal that I’ve been writing for about four years on Limitless!  Can we have a series story, Limitless?!!! I would love that!🤣 It’s been a while since we had some fiction or those crazy false memoirs. Hehe. Remember “Miss Koi Koi”?  Why am I talking to myself? Me, myself, and Limitless🤣. That’s by the way though.  I like the fact that I can just come here and say what’s currently on my mind, and you, my Limitless reader would still read.  Fortunately for me, and to be very candid, the majority of what fuels me to write is not the number of reads I get on a post or what my view Stats is showing. If you ever had a chance to read my bio on here, you’d see what I wrote and that is majorly what fuels me.  Don’t get me wrong, I love it so much when you read and comment on my work. I especially like when you read my controversial posts and take time to absorb before reacting or responding. Even when you don’t take time to read b...

Welcome to Limitless!  Yes, I see the weddings and engagements also.  It’s as if 2024 is majorly for weddings! Bruhhhhh. Everywhere I turn to Wedding, Engagement, Proposals🤣. Is there something you guys are not telling us? Is the world coming to an end soon? Becauseeeeeee I can’t keep up😂.  It hits different when you see that your friends are getting married and engaged also. I guess it’s that age already. Lol.  The craziest rumor I’ve heard about myself recently is that I’m married. Bruhhhhhh? Don’t kill me abeg 🤣. Secret marriage? I don’t think so.  I actually feel like I will be going for lots of weddings next year. lol. Just a feeling.  It’s plentyyyyy o ! You guyssssss! I’m just here to rant about the 2024 weddings.  The funny thing is I don’t feel choked, oppressed, depressed or anything. In fact, I feel so at rest. Unusual rest, becauseee🤣. And I’m actually really happy for the people I know who are getting married! So excited for them!...

Welcome to Limitless!  Maybe you feel relegated? Do I really matter in the grand scheme of things?  Will this ever end? Why am I caught in this web of circles?  Why are things not going the way I planned? Will it ever get better than this? When will it get better?  Does God actually care about me? I think God has His own favorite people because why can’t He just do this one thing for me?  How long do I have to wait? I’ve prayed, I’ve fasted, I’m prepared. When exactly do I see the light? I’ve been in this tunnel for what seems like forever. I’m so tired.  Bro, I feel you. To be real.  Let me share a scripture. This was Jesus speaking.  “Look at the ravens. They don’t plant or harvest or store food in barns, for God feeds them. And you are far more valuable to him than any birds!… And if God cares so wonderfully for flowers that are here today and thrown into the fire tomorrow, he will certainly care for you. Why do you have so little faith?” Luke‬...

Welcome to Limitless!  Today, I’m grateful that I have a father who was present during my developmental years and who is still present in my life.  One of the fondest childhood memories I have of my dad is from when I was about 5 years old. I tagged along with him to buy some bread that day and he carried me on his back all the way to and from the bread shop. That act, as simple as it may seem, is forever ingrained in my memory, and it reminds me of how affectionate my dad was and still is. He still rarely says “I love you”, but he definitely shows it. :) My dad never flogged me, and I can remember him punishing me only once. There were lots of scolding, seizing, and corrections though. Hehe. I was a softie, so scolds could make me cry, you didn’t even need to cane me. Lol. I remember that he would always say “o fé té” which means you are about to pass your boundary as a note of warning. If my dad shouts at you once, you would rethink your whole life. Hehe. I wonder why he was...

Photo by Luis Villasmil on Unsplash  Welcome to Limitless! Today is a special day!  After, that one interview with Victor Alausa,  Life as a Theatre Arts Student , I’ve not brought anyone to write on Limitless. So, i’m really excited for this one!  Today, Edna shares her experience and view on Unrequited Love! Enjoy the read!  ~  Unrequited love is a story a lot of us know well or have probably experienced, but my story unfolded during the days of the COVID-19 pandemic.  It started in the isolation of lockdown, when the world outside was hushed.  I was home from school and started catching up on old friends from secondary school and then I reconnected with him - let’s call him S. We bonded over our shared love for nostalgia of our high school days and soon, our conversations extended beyond the nostalgia to our current feelings.  S and I started video calling each other daily. It was incredible how we connected despite never meeting in person...

Welcome to Limitless!  I feel like if I did just as much as sigh this day, it would be enough. How do you fathom that someone who was once here, who you once talked to, laughed with, and ate with, is no longer here?  Brutal reckless death.  I heard about the passing of one of my university friends/roommates some days ago, and it is so hard to come to terms with. I really feel like I’m still in denial. Maybe her family would still come tell us that she isn’t actually gone. Is it just a rumor? It’s too painful to believe, and writing about it is even much harder. It’s making it feel real, which is so hard to accept.  I tried to tie a bow with my pant’s belt this morning, and my mind immediately went back to her. She would tie my sabbath’s dress bow so perfectly that even after we moved from Room D16, if I saw her on my way to sabbath worship, I would still ask her to tie a bow for me. How do I move on from that memory?  I don’t know if what I feel is pain or numbn...

Welcome to Limitless.  Here’s my line of reasoning: God is highly interested in weak men. At the lowest where you feel like you’ve hit your breaking point, it piques God’s interest even more. Am I here to sputter rubbish. By no means. Let me show you my basis.  Consider Apostle Paul’s exchange with Jesus in 2Cor 12:8-10. There is a whole context to this, but let’s start from verse 8.  “Three times I begged the Lord to take it away. Each time He said, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.”  “So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me.” Verse 8 and God’s response to Apostle Paul in 9 seems to me like God wanted him to admit that he was weak.  My question now is, who on earth boasts about their weaknesses?  I think I have an idea- someone who has admitted that she is a weak woman, and who would allow Christ’s strength to be perfected in her weaknesses.  For the past few weeks, I hav...

Photo from Muhil Mohan on Unsplash.  Welcome to Limitless.  I shuffle between consciousness and the sleep world, forcing myself to sleep in just a bit more because it’s my day off. Morolake, give this body some extra little break.  Then, I receive a call. Hoping it’s not a work call, I lazily pick up my phone, “oh it’s my dad”… I check the time, 7:45am. Why so early? Okay, I think he is returning my call that he missed yesterday. He called to give an update of things. Perfect. I dropped my phone and flickered my eyes from object to object in my apartment. I stare intently at the bottle of groundnut sitting pretty on my island. I really need to cook, or I might just keep living on bread and those two-bite chocolate croissants which is bad because believe it or not, I’ve been gaining weight. Impressive.  I sit and wonder if this is the new life to embrace. This hectic, busy, adult life. Every day is a dramatic one, and most likely a rollercoaster. Am I embracing this n...

Photo from Patryk Sobczack on Unsplash.  Welcome to Limitless!  I was watching a Q and A session with TrueTalkwithTED, and one of the questions they dealt with was on loneliness and completeness. Their answers made so much sense.  I find that loneliness is one thing that we need to deal with before getting into a relationship. It might often not be the case, but getting into a relationship because you are lonely is a recipe for relationship strains. I would rather get used to my own company and be content with my single season than impose my ‘loneliness’ on another human.  I guess that’s why there’s a difference between aloneness and loneliness.  I find that some people place so much of a high expectation on their partner in order to solve that loneliness. Then, they discover that it’s not working, and they start to think their partner is not giving their best. lol. You sure about that?  You’ve just gotta be comfortable with your own company. Most times, pe...

Welcome to Limitless!  I’m the chief of not wanting to inconvenience other people with my issues.  Let’s start from my church story. It was tough for me to get used to the transportation arrangement at my current church.  After a few Sundays, my pastor’s wife told me to go and meet a certain person, so I could ride to and from church with them.  I almost fainted when she asked me to do this. I didn’t bulge though. Why should I trouble the innocent people? The question was coupled with the fact that I found it really embarrassing. ‘God abeg o, before they think someone is a pity case’. These were the sort of thoughts going on in my head.  Anyways, my pastor’s wife being who she is said, “what happened? Abi I should go and tell him for you?” I nodded hesitantly, and she went ahead to ask them.  That was the first time I had to accept an “inconveniencing” type of help in my church.  Second, my parents came visiting last year, and my mum spent more time w...