The Entitlement Mentality

-


Welcome to Limitless! 

This topic is long overdue. 

You’ve probably heard about the entitlement mentality before. 

Why does she act in such an entitled manner? Why is he so entitled? Yeah. Let’s talk about it. 

The entitlement mentality is the belief that you should receive something from someone even when you have done nothing to deserve it or you are not in the position to receive it. 

Quick story yeah? I went for The Outpouring with my friends in September 2023. On our way into the venue, one of my friends said she wanted water, and I replied with something like “I think they would have water in the venue though”. My friend then responded with something like “I actually don’t expect anything to be free”. 

At that moment, it occurred to me that I had an entitlement mentality for a second there. From that point, I think I’ve been more conscious of not being entitled. 

Do you know the funniest part of this entitlement mentality? It’s people who are entitled and just won’t take their L (loss) in peace, instead they would flare up at the end of you not bending to their expectations. 

I would say that the most common entitlement mentality is people who assume that other people are always in the position to give them money. Everybody has things they want to do with their money, seriously. So, take it easy on people that you ask for help. 

Another set of entitled people are the ones that are entitled to your time. If you really want me to give you my time or attention, please I want to see it in your words. I keep saying it and it just seems funny. If you text me with a ‘hi’ or ‘hello’ and I do not reply, well, sorry but not sorry. Just go straight to the point, I do not want the back and forth. 

“Hi 

Hey there! 

How are you doing? 

I’m doing well, you? 

I’m good, you? “


Bruhh! You could actually go straight to the point. Include why you’re texting. Interestingly, 90% of the people who do this are actually not even close to you at all, so, there’s no valid reason to even want to follow through with the conversation. The funniest part of it all is those who think you’re snubbing them. Why do you feel entitled to my response? Maybe if you sent a proper realistic😂 text, I might have replied. So, no, you do not deserve my time. I’m sorry if I sound proud, I just don’t like wasting my time and beating about the bush. If you want to drag me, take it easy on my legs🤣. 

At the end of the day, I think some of us are just trying to be better persons and unlearn some mindsets. On that account, I think the entitlement mindset is worth considering and reflecting on. I’ve been reflecting on it for quite a while now and redirecting my perspective, and I think you should also. 

~ 

Thank you for reading. Till we meet again.🤍



Comments

  1. AnonymousAugust 7, 2024 at 8:50 PM

    This came in timely
    Weldone my prof🥰

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. AnonymousAugust 8, 2024 at 6:25 PM

      This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.

      Delete
    2. Morolake JibokuAugust 8, 2024 at 6:28 PM

      Oh wow!😃 Thank you so much for reading!🤍

      Delete
  2. AnonymousAugust 7, 2024 at 9:39 PM

    Nice piece 👍

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Morolake JibokuAugust 8, 2024 at 6:29 PM

      I really appreciate this. Thank you!

      Delete
  3. AnonymousAugust 8, 2024 at 3:05 AM

    I could think of a thousand examples both from my end and from other people. Like you’ve said, it’s always good to be conscious of it.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Morolake JibokuAugust 8, 2024 at 6:30 PM

      You got it! Thank you so much for reading!

      Delete
  4. AnonymousAugust 8, 2024 at 3:57 AM

    So Im about to disagree a bit in something. My hot take is that I don’t think having higher expectations despite being deserving of it or not is being entitled. I think your reaction to not having those expectations met really shows if you’re entitled.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Morolake JibokuAugust 8, 2024 at 6:43 PM

      Hot takes keep me on my toes, so thank you for sharing your thoughts.

      First, what is a mentality? A habitual or characteristic mental attitude that *determines* how you will interpret and respond to situations.
      It is a mindset, that is capable of growing.

      Consistently having unrealistic high expectations is capable of growing into an entitlement mentality.
      And I think, this applies whether you choose to flare up, react negatively, or not. Some people just think the world revolves around them and everyone/everything should be at their beck and call. They always have a “you owe me” attitude and that the other person has to fulfill their request.

      If you assume that other people are always in the position to give you money, for example, it is an entitlement mentality, whether you choose to flare up when they give you or not.

      Thank you again for starting this interesting discourse.

      Delete

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

The Universe City

-
Image
Hiiiiii there! I hope you are well and alright. I know you've taken that first step and if you've not, I sincerely hope you are already making plans to start.  Interestingly, I would be telling you about my experience in the university today! It was a rollercoaster my dear. It was filled with laughs, tears, close-knitted friendships and lots of patience.  Don’t laugh! Well, as a fresh secondary school graduate in 2016, I was over the moon that I would be getting into the higher institution soon. I had already passed all my qualifying exams for my admission. You know, it was just so relieving to be done with the bulky subjects, ringing of bells and annoying seniors. It felt good. I didn't even know about it yet!😂 About a week before I got into uni, my mum called me and she said "you know you are about to start another phase of life. I would like to describe where you are going to as a ' universe city '. I just started laughing, i was like osheyyy, see pun.  The
Read more

Baby Steps!

-
Image
     Hello there! My heart is bursting with so much excitement right now. I can finally get to express myself and share my views with you. Of course, i'm taking baby steps! The first step is always the one that looks so high and difficult. Well, you should know that before a baby takes its first step, it stands first. That is, you have to make a deliberate decision to start whatever you want to do.       I know it's very hard not to procrastinate especially during a period like this but you just ‘gast’ to ginger yourself and get up. The truth is, if you keep procrastinating, you might end up not doing it or might have wasted time. So, try that recipe today! Start the online course! Just do whatever you've always had  in your mind to start. Today is the new tomorrow my gee! As for me, I look forward to sharing unlimited gists with you, take you on rollercoasters of fictional stories and discuss exciting topics on relationship. I promise it would be a fun ride for us. Welcome
Read more

Spotting Red Flags!

-
Image
Wait! Stop! Hollup! Don't go there! It will end in tears. Hello darling! I hope you had a fruitful week. Welcome to your resting place!  Today, I'd be telling you about spotting red flags before a relationship. Red flags are warning signs that reveal why the relationship you are about to start won't work. It could also be signs that show why you should get out of that relationship immediately. These are 4 red flags that are very easy to spot:  1. No vibes/ Lack of energy : This is when their energy does not match your energy. You send your bomb pictures and they are just like 'nice pictures'. Hello? Any stranger could say that, don't I deserve hypes too? Sigh! It could also be that the way they talk or chat is always monotone. No form of ginger! You start the conversation with so much energy and they reply you with a very flat tone. You guys wiĺl not just flow because they can't hold lively conversations. This should not be ignored. It's either you strai
Read more

My Scary Experience with Miss Koi Koi

-
Image
Yayyyy!!! I get to talk to you again! Hello there sweetie. I hope you had a productive week. Welcome to your resting place, Limitless. Story story, once upon a time! (You were replying in your head right😂). Today, I would be telling you about my very scary but interesting experience with Miss Koi Koi. I stayed in the boarding house during my secondary school education. If you did too, you probably know the different stories we hear about spirits or ghosts that haunt hostels. For example, bunk shakers, the hanging man, bush baby and of course, Miss Koi Koi.  In case you’ve never heard the story of Miss Koi Koi also known as Madam Koi Koi, I would explain briefly. Miss Koi Koi is a legend about a very fashionable lady who was a teacher at a Federal Government Secondary School. She was known for her red lipstick and the signature pair of red high heel shoes she always wore. She was very mean and saucy making her one of the most feared teachers. The real deal started when she had a brawl
Read more

Spotting Green Flags

-
Image
Helloooo!!! Welcome back to Limitless! I hope you had a productive week. I sincerely hope you get to relax and rest well this weekend.  About two weeks ago, I talked about spotting red flags, those warning signs that show why you shouldn’t start that relationship. If you’ve not read it, you should do that. You should know that I am not just a preacher of war, I am a preacher of love😂; therefore, I would be addressing how to spot green flags today.  Green flags are those convincing signs that show why you are ready to be in the relationship. They are the ‘go ahead’ signals you get when you are conflicted about whether to start a relationship or not. I’m here to assure and show you that while you are stalling, there are some things that signify you are ready.  1. It feels right This green flag simply means you are sure about the person. Your doubts are dissipating. You don’t have that instinct that says something is wrong anymore. Their energy matches yours or is even more than. The vib
Read more