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Welcome to Limitless!  I firmly believe that as much as there are love languages in relationships, they also apply to friendships.  I posted on my story some time ago about how I was going to start writing thoughtful notes about friends and family on their birthdays if I wanted to. I would be doing this regardless of the length of their birthday wish or whatever they posted on my own birthday.  You see, I had come from a place of going to see how other people wished me a happy birthday or the energy they put in while wishing me to determine how I would wish them. And it started when I noticed that I would type really long messages about friends, and they would either trivialize the messages I send or give zero energy on my own birthday.  I took down the story talking about the issue because it looked really petty. But really, I was just responding to unreciprocated affection, or let’s say ill-reciprocated affection.  The thing now is, I have noticed that people love differently in frie

Welcome to Limitless! In case you are new here, we discuss real life issues, relationship, and enjoy some fiction on Limitless. Enjoy the ride❤️.  Okay. Someone is already annoyed in advance and about to counter everything I say😂. Just calm down and stay with me.  Let’s talk about ghosting. Please refer to my Ghosting  blogpost. I explained what ghosting means there. That post was more directed at people who had experienced or who are experiencing ghosting. Today, I’m facing the ghosters! So, let’s peek into the heads of people who ghost and see what they were probably thinking.  1. They are busy:  This is the most common reason I’ve heard. “You know, my workplace is currently going through this accreditation thing, and it’s been so hectic”. They are too busy to reply you and end up replying your texts days, weeks, or even months after. They are either too busy with work, school, exams, ministry (for those doing talking stage with ministers😭).  Some will carry on with the conversatio

Photo from Javier Allegue Barros on Unsplash  Sometimes, being good can be so hard. For real. People really test your patience and expect you to just fold your arms and watch. Sometimes, you even find yourself at crossroads, “will doing good be in my best interest or will doing a bad thing just this once suffice?”  Welcome to Limitless!  I’ve been cogigating on the subject of goodness, an enigma I’ve not fully wrapped my head around yet. So many rhetorical questions have been flying in my head; am I really a good person? Then, there are actual questions such as Are humans inherently good or bad? Can a good person do evil and remain a good person? How do we even assess goodness? Sigh. There’s definitely a lot to unpack here.  First, let’s discuss the second question, “Can a good person do evil and remain a good person?” . Sometime ago, I asked the question on my Instagram story. I got quite a number of intelligent answers.  One person responded with “no one is good”. I immediately knew

Happy new year guys!🥂🎆 and Welcome to Limitless!  I was walking around my church one day and I discovered my church had a library. A library? My heart erupted with excitement of course. Ah . I’ve found a new assignment. The next Sunday, I went to the bookshelves and I discovered they were locked. So, I told my Pastor’s wife to come open it for me. Even though she told me “ wahala e po ”😂 (your trouble is too much), she eventually opened it.  Suffice to say, my eyes landed on this book and I knew it had my name imprinted on it. I surfed to the table of content, and everything resonated with me. Loneliness and being alone were things I had to deal with last year, so I immediately felt so seen.  I later received the shock of my life though. I found out that the book’s primary audience was pastors’ wives, then, ladies in leadership. Pastors’ wives? What is my business with Pastors’ wives?- I asked the Holy Spirit. He definitely hid the back cover’s blurb from me, because if I had read i

Image from Fadi Xd on Unsplash  Welcome to Limitless!  This is the second part of  How to Shoot your Shot- Part 1 I highly recommend reading that discussion before reading this.  Here are some tips on how to shoot your shot with class😉.  1. Be different  I know this already sounds like a motivational speech😂 but hear me out. People who shoot shots in ‘dms’ are the number one culprits at the other end of this point, if you know what I mean.  To be honest there is a 95% chance that she won’t reply you if you just leave a hello or hi in her dm.  I mean, you could say hello if you guys have met before or you’ve heard about each other from a mutual. You could also text that if your profile is a robust one. (Ghost users always do the most🌚). Just hello or hi can just never sit right with me, because ‘hi what?’🤔 Instead of these attempts, if you are trying to shoot your shot online, you can start by introducing yourself and say you would like to know more about them.  Or even better, dro

Photo from Annie Spratt on Unsplash  Welcome to Limitless!  First, I want to state clearly that I’m by no means perfect, and all I will be saying here today are from a place of love and instruction.  This is the first part in a series I title- PRACTICAL TIPS TO STRENGTHEN YOUR PRAYER LIFE. What I really want to dwell on today is “searching our hearts”. This is what God has been teaching me this season and I just thought to share it with you.  It is so easy to pray amiss if you are not sensitive. Praying amiss could mean a lot of things, but it also means praying when you know your heart is not right with God.  For instance, I can’t be asking for POWER if I know there is someone I’m keeping in my heart that I need to let go.  I know our personalities are different. For example, it is difficult for me to warm up to people at first. I can be polite with you, or get into ‘work mode’, but once I don’t like your countenance or my spirit doesn’t flow with you, I close my heart.  It might eve

Welcome to Limitless!  Valentine’s Day, the perfect opportunity to reaffirm your love for your partner through your words, gifts and gestures.  Do you have a Val yet? Do people even still choose Vals or has it become an unspoken tradition? If you are in a relationship, it automatically means your partner is your Val right? Are you looking forward to Val’s day?  For my singles who are single SINGLE, you know what I mean? I have something special coming for you, so don’t let anyone pressure you or make you feel bad about being single in this Valentine’s season!  For my singles who have “crushes” i.e. you like someone, and you guys have been talking. I want to probe the minds of some of you. You shouldn’t just be secretly hoping that the other person gets you something while you aren’t planning to buy anything for them. You get the drift?  Anyway, I’m here to tell you that this Valentine’s Day is the perfect time to shoot your shot in the form of a gift or a gesture.  For my lovers, the o

Do you ever get that feeling of “I’ve not been praying, I need to get closer to God, my spiritual life has been down” sometimes? It is the Holy Spirit tugging at your heart. He is bringing these thoughts into your mind because he wants you to take action.  But, of course, the devil does not want you close to God. That is why he brings distractions and limits you to just thinking about these things but not taking action. Or have you ever been so far from God, but you still come to Him when you need something, then, you suddenly feel so guilty and shameful?  You are definitely not alone. I just want to share my experience with you today and give practical tips on how to stay close to God.  Before I go into sharing my experience, I want you to keep a word in mind- ATMOSPHERE .   Let me start with this story.  During my undergrad days- 300 level 2nd semester precisely,  I had these two roommates named Clara and Pelumi. These two people are some of the key figures who have had a major impac

Photo from Unsplash Happy new year guys!!! I hope you had a good holiday. I had a great one actually, although, it was entirely different from the end of the year season I’ve been used to. There was no killing of chicken or pounded yam😑. Nonetheless, it was really nice for me. I took time to rest and reflect on the past year.  Anywayyyy!!! I’m so happy you made it to 2022!! I really hope you make the best out of it and have a great year. I’m so rooting for you this year!  Now, I don’t want to get your hopes high and tell you life will be all rosy this year. To be honest, there would always be a hurdle. However, how we decide to cross it is entirely left in our hands.  Would you step back from the hurdle, get stuck, or cross it?  There would be people who would try to leave their marks of negativity on you. They would drop subtle snide remarks that leaves you feeling bad.  It might not even be personal. It could be what you watch and see on social media platforms. Instagram posts, snap

Welcome to Limitless!  ———————— We have to understand that people are free to either accept or reject our advances. I mean, it’s their choice and they should be free to choose whomever they want because they know what’s best for them. Let’s respect that. And YES, people are free to stop talking to us when we reject them. THAT’S MY OPINION. It would only look funny to you if you’ve never been rejected or you don’t know what it feels like to be rejected. I used to think it was ridiculous too, but if that’s their coping mechanism, then, who am I to alter that process?  NOTE that I said we have the freedom to stop talking to people when they reject us. Not hating, not spreading rumors, not insulting or manipulating. This thing goes both ways. Let’s name the rejecter, Bola and name the rejected, Jide.  Jide has to respect Bola’s choice to refuse his advances. She is free to choose whomever she thinks should be in her life. At the same time, Bola has to respect Jide’s decision to heal from t

Helloooo Limitless Family! Welcome to your favorite blog! It’s Christmas season.😭💃 I see all the Santa and  Christmas trees already. Wahala for Satan wey no get birthday o 😂.  This post is specially for couples who are thinking of places to go this season. Andddd if you are single, don’t fret! Nothing spoil🤣. You could go to these places with a friend, family or alone. So, let’s dive in.  1. Restaurant Date  This is one of the most popular if not the most popular. But who cares? As long as it’s with the love of your life, it’s you and them against the world baby! I’m sure if you check google, you would find very nice restaurants around you. 2. The Beach  I particularly love the feel of sand beneath my feet and the sound of tides clashing. Bliss. The beach is one place you should go with your partner. You could sit together, talk, play games, take pictures, run and so many fun things!  3. The Cinema  Go see a movie with your boo! You would enjoy it I promise. The sweet popcorn is a

Hello guysssssss!!! Welcome back to Limitless! Whoosh! These past two weeks has been a rollercoaster of emotions. I didn’t publish an article last week because I was just too sad and angry at everything that has been happening. It started with a clamor for change. The cry for an end to police brutality transitioning into a call for accountability. It’s so unfortunate that we got bullets and indifference in return.  The Lekki Massacre is still something I think about, and try to reason why some group of individuals would want to harm people. The heart of man indeed is desperately wicked. I mean, you didn’t spray water on them even if you wanted to be mean. Live rounds of bullets! Wickedness. We can never forget! 20th October, 2020! Then, the President came to speak and showed no empathy or acknowledgement for the lives that were lost at the Lekki Toll Gate? A democratic government indeed. Today, let’s talk about the opposite of love. I’m sure you are already wondering what else the oppo

 Hello and welcome to Limitless! I hope your weekend is going well.  A couple of weeks ago, I deemed it fit to throw an open question on how to get over a breakup. Thankfully, some people who have been through it revealed how they got over theirs. Thus, I took bits and pieces from that plus what I’ve seen to be able to deliver this to you. I’m telling you this so you won’t think these tips are far fetched or have never happened.  Meanwhile, everyone is wired differently. What works for me might not work for you. We all have diverse ways we react to handle situations. Nevertheless, I’m very sure at least 3 of these tips will be able to help you get over a breakup.  1. Channel your mind towards something else This simply means taking your mind off them and focusing on something else. You might want to ask me how? It could be starting that business you’ve been saying you’d start but you’ve not. It could be spending more time on your hobbies- writing, drawing, knitting and so on. It could

 I feel like doing giveaway.😂 Drop your account details if you’ve been reading the posts on Limitless.😑 Na small joke o. Hehe😂.  Hello my highly esteemed friend. How are you doing? How was your week? I hope you had a good one. If yours wasn’t too good. Take time from this weekend to relax! You are doing that already by the way. Welcome to Limitless! Today, we’ll be discussing a very crucial topic that I think is becoming more prevalent. We really need to address this topic on Commitment Issues, diving into the signs, causes and solutions. So, shall we?  Let me start with a little story. I have a friend who was so into this particular girl. He had feelings for her and was beginning to fall head over heels. They do all the romantic stuff, play together, the vibe was flowing. So, it got to a particular time when the girl was starting to think she was just a play thing because the guy wasn’t asking her to be his girlfriend or talking along those lines and they’ve been at it for about 6