How to deal with Commitment issues

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Today, we’ll be discussing a very crucial topic that I think is becoming more prevalent. We really need to address this topic on Commitment Issues, diving into the signs, causes and solutions. So, shall we? 

Let me start with a little story. I have a friend who was so into this particular girl. He had feelings for her and was beginning to fall head over heels. They do all the romantic stuff, play together, the vibe was flowing. So, it got to a particular time when the girl was starting to think she was just a play thing because the guy wasn’t asking her to be his girlfriend or talking along those lines and they’ve been at it for about 6 months. The girl always tries to get them to define what the  relationship was but the guy would give excuses or avoid the conversation. He was all over her, he wanted to be the only man in her life, but wasn’t ready to commit or define the relationship. If you asked me, I would say what this guy had was commitment issues. 

Commitment issues in this context is used to characterize a person who seeks to avoid commitment in romantic relationships. It could also be an individual who isn’t willing to define a relationship because they don’t want to put their all in it. Let’s just discuss two signs, causes and solutions each. 

SIGNS- How do you know someone has commitment issues?

• No Label: They like all the lovey-dovey stuff. They are always there when you need someone to talk to, you like having them around. The emotional connection is there, the vibe flows easily. Nothing is stressed nor forced. You feel good with them but when you bring up a topic on how you guys should define what you are doing, it becomes a problem. Some times, it might even cause a rift. This is because they are not willing to take the relationship to the next level. Basically, they are afraid or hesitating from changing their status from ‘single’ to being ‘in a relationship’. Situationship parole.👀💔😂

• Mixed Feelings: You might get confused because the person seems interested and attracted to you this moment, the next thing you know, they run away or ghost you when you start voicing out your thoughts on getting serious. On one hand , they are really into you but on the other hand, they try to make excuses to avoid you. 

CAUSES

• Fear: My dear, people are afraid of many things. Some are afraid of ending up in an unsatisfying relationship. I’m sure they would be thinking ‘yeah, everything is going on smoothly but what if I enter it and things go south?’ Over thinkers are sitting comfortably on this table! Some people are just scared of giving their all, then, being left broken-hearted at the end of the day. This is a major cause of commitment issues that has prevailed over time. 

• Hurt from past relationships: Some people’s eyes have seen a lot, so, you can’t even judge. It could be that the person ended up heart-broken in their past relationships where they gave their all and defined the whole thing. It could also be that they’ve been through traumatic experiences in their past relationships. 

SOLUTIONS

• Patience: If you know you are in the talking stage with someone and the person avoids getting too attached or committed, you should try to be patient with them. Don’t start  applying pressure that will make them run away eventually. Take it easy, talk to them about it while bringing your evidence in a soft manner. Be honest with them while you are pointing them out. Show them they can trust you, tell them you are willing to help them come out of their shell. Let them know they can talk to you about it. I think that will do. 

• Discover the root of your fear and work on it: As an individual, if you’ve realized from all what has been stated above or you already know that you have commitment issues. You should try to think deeply about what the root cause of the issue is. If you know you really love someone and you not defining what you are in would be hurting them, then, you should try to work on your self. Try to get over the reason behind it in the first place and move on.

I believe if you really love someone, you’d be willing to be a better person and not want to see them hurting. You’d even want to give them your all without stressing them. Also, if they really love you, they’d be willing to listen when you talk to them and stop running away. They would stay and want to straighten things out.

I hope this helped someone. That will be all for today. Kindly drop a comment and share this. Thanks so much for reading. See you next Saturday. Bye!