The Opposite of Love

Hello guysssssss!!! Welcome back to Limitless! Whoosh! These past two weeks has been a rollercoaster of emotions. I didn’t publish an article last week because I was just too sad and angry at everything that has been happening. It started with a clamor for change. The cry for an end to police brutality transitioning into a call for accountability. It’s so unfortunate that we got bullets and indifference in return. 

The Lekki Massacre is still something I think about, and try to reason why some group of individuals would want to harm people. The heart of man indeed is desperately wicked. I mean, you didn’t spray water on them even if you wanted to be mean. Live rounds of bullets! Wickedness. We can never forget! 20th October, 2020! Then, the President came to speak and showed no empathy or acknowledgement for the lives that were lost at the Lekki Toll Gate? A democratic government indeed.

Today, let’s talk about the opposite of love. I’m sure you are already wondering what else the opposite of love would be if not hate. Well, in the playground of relationships, indifference is the opposite of love. 

In my opinion, indifference can be a problem, it could also be a solution. 

Indifference as a problem

Here, indifference is an absence of emotional reactions. You don’t care about what they do anymore. You don’t bother reaching out to them. You ‘ghost’ on them. It could also be that they talk to you but it’s not deep enough as you want it to be. I mean, they just come and say hi, how are you and they are off. 

This type of indifference is bad behavior! I mean, if you have issues and they are your partner already, what’s so hard in telling them what‘s going on with you. I don’t know if some people think staying away from someone for a long time without stating the reason will make them start missing them or something. So, you appear four months later and the first thing that comes to your mind is to video call me. Lmao. Is everything okay? You didn’t even ask. The audacity🙄😑😂. 

On the other hand, if you are not yet in a relationship, that is, you are in the talking stage, it’s bad behavior to start being indifferent towards the other person. If you are not ready for a relationship, tell them. If they offended you, speak up. If you have commitment issues, tell them. You are going through something hurtful, tell them about it or say you need space. Communication is Key!  Ghosting is the most common trait in indifference as a problem and sometimes, it could be as a result of commitment issues. 

Meanwhile, you can read about Spotting Red Flags and Commitment issues in previous articles here. Just check the list of topics on the home page and you’d find them. 

Indifference as a Solution 

Here, indifference can be used to solve indifference. Funny right? So, they’ve not spoken to you for three weeks and your hand is itching you to call them. Hollup! Are you not tired of things being one-sided?

 The person did it the first time, you called. They did it the second time, you typed one epistle addressing the issue and they replied with ‘okay’. Is that normal? Have you never thought about how you are the only one putting effort into the relationship or the talking stage? Don’t you know you are a spec? No now. Someone can’t just be treating you like garbage! 

So, back to the question, they’ve not spoken to you for three weeks, should you call them? It’s a NO! To be very honest with you, you are just stressing yourself and forcing things. You’d be fueling their ego if you act like you care. Let them go. I mean, if they really wanted to talk to you, they would have. If they wanted to be away that long, they would have communicated. 

A way you can solve this problem is being indifferent too. Stay away from them, they are unhealthy for you. Move on with your life. You deserve someone who will love you wholeheartedly. It’s very obvious that they don’t care and you are not obligated to do that too. I mean, how long do you want to continue trying to make things work and they keep doing the same thing? Let them go. 

That’s all ladies and gentlemen. Thanks so much for reading. Kindly drop a comment and share. Don’t forget to check back next Saturday for another episode. Stay strong and stay safe. Bye!