PROTECTING YOUR SPACE

Welcome to Limitless! 

I have deleted and edited, made several drafts, continued writing the story “Kárunwí, but today, I would like to bring back one of my blog posts from 2022! 

The year is drawing to an end, and I want to ask you, how well have you protected your space? Really well? Good. Some slip-ups? It’s part of life! 

We do not beat ourselves up in blaming ourselves about how we’ve slipped up with protecting our spaces, rather, we work on the boundaries we can put in place to ensure they don’t happen next time.

So, no matter how bad you think you’ve slipped up in protecting your space. You can still get back on track. 

Here are ways I think we could protect our spaces better. Of course, these are just suggestions; please feel free to leave out the things that might not work for you. Enjoy! 

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To be honest, there would always be a hurdle. However, how we decide to cross it is entirely left in our hands. 

Would you step back from the hurdle, get stuck, or cross it? 

There would be people who would try to leave their marks of negativity on you. They would drop subtle snide remarks that leaves you feeling bad. 

It might not even be personal. It could be what you watch and see on social media platforms. Instagram posts, snaps, WhatsApp status, and the likes. 

Last year, (now 2021),  I was really intent on cleaning out my media space. I made sure I deleted contacts and unfollowed Instagram pages that made me feel uncomfortable. It was just about protecting my space. 

Sometimes, we forget to pay attention to ourselves. 

We forget that in the end, it’s just we and our heads in our little corners. 

There are just 2 ways I want us to protect our spaces  more! 

1. Put yourself first

I know you’ve probably heard this one thousand and one times now, but I think, most times, we are all talk and no action. You have to take this decision first before you can protect your space. You have to be able to face your truth when something is making you uncomfortable. 

My Limitless one, there are some situations that demand just keeping quiet and watching, but there are some that you have to confront, either with your words or action. When you don’t respond, you are simply telling the person that it’s okay to walk all over you and feed you with their negativity. 

Block the negativity. Tune it out. Don’t let anyone’s bad vibes rub off on you. Don’t let their negative words get to you. Don’t let them make you feel so uncomfortable that it becomes unsettling. 

If it will take confronting them, unfollowing, blocking, or just tuning out. Do it.  

Also, don’t let anyone make you feel like you aren’t enough, don’t let anyone put pressure on you. Remember that post on the pressure to succeed? You should read it again. 

Also, you have to put your well-being first. I know we get so busy and we don’t even have enough time for ourselves, but sometimes, you’ve gotta slow down. 

Take time to rest. This might be difficult to do especially if you have a lot on your plate but it’s not something impossible.

Eat healthy meals, fruits, and vegetables. Feed your body well since it’s serving you so much. 

We owe our bodies that much. 

2. Guard your mind 

There are a lot of things that go into our minds and we don’t even notice. You have to be very careful because before you know it, some thoughts are already sneaking up into your head, and you start to wonder where they stemmed from. 

Sometimes, it might just be from something that you watched on Instagram or TikTok, and you might not know that a seed just got sown. It could be a seed of pornography. 

I once shared on my Instagram story that Twitter is such a dangerous place. You could just be scrolling, thinking your day is going alright, then you stumble on nudity, or an explicit sexual image or video. For goodness’ sake! 

Now, as a young believer who is doing everything to guard her heart with all diligence, who isn’t willing to get into that killing path called pornographic addiction, stumbling on these things will rile me up.

These things are seeds; you know that right? To lure you into that path; to make you see that there’s nothing wrong with it. 

Well, let me tell you, getting riled up and swiping away quickly didn’t help. Deleting the app for sometime didn’t even help.

One trick I learned quickly was to go to the root of the problem. How come there is pornography on my feed? Who is sharing it? Then, I noticed that two people I was following were consistently liking and retweeting explicit sexual images and videos. 

You know when someone you are following likes a tweet, it appears on your feed. That was exactly what was happening. So, I didn’t care who these people were, I had to unfollow them, remove them from my followers and mute their accounts. I would also mute accounts whose explicit content were appearing on my feed, and I guess the algorithm just read the room and stopped suggesting those kind of posts. 

That was the end of seeing anything related to pornography on my Twitter for me. 

I remember that when I posted this, someone also suggested muting certain words. Very important! 

In the past, there was a tool in the privacy setting to toggle off the display of sensitive content, but I guess Twitter took it off for whatever reason. Oh well. 

By all means, please guard what you allow into your eyes and ears. Be in control, by the help of the Holy Spirit! 

I guess I will stop here for now. 

These are my little tips on how you can protect your space better. I hope it helped a bit, and I hope I didn’t step on any toes🫠😁. 

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Thank you for reading! Till we meet again.❤️