Limitless

Welcome to Limitless!  Today, I’m grateful that I have a father who was present during my developmental years and who is still present in my life.  One of the fondest childhood memories I have of my dad is from when I was about 5 years old. I tagged along with him to buy some bread that day and he carried me on his back all the way to and from the bread shop. That act, as simple as it may seem, is forever ingrained in my memory, and it reminds me of how affectionate my dad was and still is. He still rarely says “I love you”, but he definitely shows it. :) My dad never flogged me, and I can remember him punishing me only once. There were lots of scolding, seizing, and corrections though. Hehe. I was a softie, so scolds could make me cry, you didn’t even need to cane me. Lol. I remember that he would always say “o fé té” which means you are about to pass your boundary as a note of warning. If my dad shouts at you once, you would rethink your whole life. Hehe. I wonder why he wasn’t as ha

Photo by Luis Villasmil on Unsplash  Welcome to Limitless! Today is a special day!  After, that one interview with Victor Alausa,  Life as a Theatre Arts Student , I’ve not brought anyone to write on Limitless. So, i’m really excited for this one!  Today, Edna shares her experience and view on Unrequited Love! Enjoy the read!  ~  Unrequited love is a story a lot of us know well or have probably experienced, but my story unfolded during the days of the COVID-19 pandemic.  It started in the isolation of lockdown, when the world outside was hushed.  I was home from school and started catching up on old friends from secondary school and then I reconnected with him - let’s call him S. We bonded over our shared love for nostalgia of our high school days and soon, our conversations extended beyond the nostalgia to our current feelings.  S and I started video calling each other daily. It was incredible how we connected despite never meeting in person. We talked about everything—our favorite bo

Welcome to Limitless!  I feel like if I did just as much as sigh this day, it would be enough. How do you fathom that someone who was once here, who you once talked to, laughed with, and ate with, is no longer here?  Brutal reckless death.  I heard about the passing of one of my university friends/roommates some days ago, and it is so hard to come to terms with. I really feel like I’m still in denial. Maybe her family would still come tell us that she isn’t actually gone. Is it just a rumor? It’s too painful to believe, and writing about it is even much harder. It’s making it feel real, which is so hard to accept.  I tried to tie a bow with my pant’s belt this morning, and my mind immediately went back to her. She would tie my sabbath’s dress bow so perfectly that even after we moved from Room D16, if I saw her on my way to sabbath worship, I would still ask her to tie a bow for me. How do I move on from that memory?  I don’t know if what I feel is pain or numbness. Such a nerve wracki

Welcome to Limitless.  Here’s my line of reasoning: God is highly interested in weak men. At the lowest where you feel like you’ve hit your breaking point, it piques God’s interest even more. Am I here to sputter rubbish. By no means. Let me show you my basis.  Consider Apostle Paul’s exchange with Jesus in 2Cor 12:8-10. There is a whole context to this, but let’s start from verse 8.  “Three times I begged the Lord to take it away. Each time He said, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.”  “So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me.” Verse 8 and God’s response to Apostle Paul in 9 seems to me like God wanted him to admit that he was weak.  My question now is, who on earth boasts about their weaknesses?  I think I have an idea- someone who has admitted that she is a weak woman, and who would allow Christ’s strength to be perfected in her weaknesses.  For the past few weeks, I have had lots of “God, I admit that I

Photo from Muhil Mohan on Unsplash.  Welcome to Limitless.  I shuffle between consciousness and the sleep world, forcing myself to sleep in just a bit more because it’s my day off. Morolake, give this body some extra little break.  Then, I receive a call. Hoping it’s not a work call, I lazily pick up my phone, “oh it’s my dad”… I check the time, 7:45am. Why so early? Okay, I think he is returning my call that he missed yesterday. He called to give an update of things. Perfect. I dropped my phone and flickered my eyes from object to object in my apartment. I stare intently at the bottle of groundnut sitting pretty on my island. I really need to cook, or I might just keep living on bread and those two-bite chocolate croissants which is bad because believe it or not, I’ve been gaining weight. Impressive.  I sit and wonder if this is the new life to embrace. This hectic, busy, adult life. Every day is a dramatic one, and most likely a rollercoaster. Am I embracing this new scenery? Should

Photo from Patryk Sobczack on Unsplash.  Welcome to Limitless!  I was watching a Q and A session with TrueTalkwithTED, and one of the questions they dealt with was on loneliness and completeness. Their answers made so much sense.  I find that loneliness is one thing that we need to deal with before getting into a relationship. It might often not be the case, but getting into a relationship because you are lonely is a recipe for relationship strains. I would rather get used to my own company and be content with my single season than impose my ‘loneliness’ on another human.  I guess that’s why there’s a difference between aloneness and loneliness.  I find that some people place so much of a high expectation on their partner in order to solve that loneliness. Then, they discover that it’s not working, and they start to think their partner is not giving their best. lol. You sure about that?  You’ve just gotta be comfortable with your own company. Most times, people who have loneliness issu

Welcome to Limitless!  I’m the chief of not wanting to inconvenience other people with my issues.  Let’s start from my church story. It was tough for me to get used to the transportation arrangement at my current church.  After a few Sundays, my pastor’s wife told me to go and meet a certain person, so I could ride to and from church with them.  I almost fainted when she asked me to do this. I didn’t bulge though. Why should I trouble the innocent people? The question was coupled with the fact that I found it really embarrassing. ‘God abeg o, before they think someone is a pity case’. These were the sort of thoughts going on in my head.  Anyways, my pastor’s wife being who she is said, “what happened? Abi I should go and tell him for you?” I nodded hesitantly, and she went ahead to ask them.  That was the first time I had to accept an “inconveniencing” type of help in my church.  Second, my parents came visiting last year, and my mum spent more time with me. One of the numerous things

Welcome to Limitless  ~ I’m one of those people who analyze a lot.  If we’ve ever had a conversation, or discussion, chances are that I got back home, rewound to the conversation, and analyzed both my responses and yours. I also replayed the words you said, the way you said it, along with what I replied with and the manner in which I responded.  Sometimes, I wonder why I’m wired that way because I know there are some people who do not take life so seriously. Lol.  This trait is a strength. It is a strength because I’m able to reflect on my actions, be sensitive to other people’s emotions, be sensitive to body language, control my tone, and watch what I say to other people.  But, there are also downsides. Self-criticism is one of them.  I understand self-criticism to be disapproval of the way I handled a situation or judging myself based on my perceived faults.  For instance, I accidentally step on someone, I apologize immediately, and the person accepts my apology. However, when I get

Welcome to Limitless!  The rate at which people are entitled these days is crazy. Maybe we should even talk about that one day. I know you are trying your best, but, sometimes it doesn’t hurt to say thank you or appreciate what someone does or is doing for you.  Let’s concentrate more on relationships and friendships. Sometimes, it might be easy to say thank you when people do obvious things for you. What about the little things in relationships? The things that seem so abysmal like a friend always being there when you need to talk. Do you ever thank them or you feel entitled to their time because they are your friend?  Do you thank your partner when they do something so little that could tend to be overlooked? Sometimes, people feel unappreciated in relationships, they feel unseen, and they feel unheard. Do you thank your partner, or you do not because ‘you would do the same for them’? Yes, you would do the same for them; we agree, but thank them first.  Do you ever thank them for bri

Welcome to Limitless. ~ “And you call yourself a Christian?” This statement just annoys me sometimes, especially when it’s made by people who have pushed you to the farthest part of the wall.  How can you annoy me so much, and you expect me not to react because you know that I’m a Christian; taking advantage of my Christianity.  I was watching a short film called Faceless on YouTube, and the lady appeared to be a quick tempered person because of how she responded to people’s insults. If you listened to the insults, you would wonder how people can be so uncouth.  The most annoying are the ones that call themselves blunt. Are you blunt or are you just simply ill-mannered? If I match your energy now, you’ll say “and she calls herself a Christian”, “fear all these people that have Bible verses in their bio and carry Jesus on their head”. Blah blah.  Anyways, I’ve come to the reasonable conclusion that annoying people will always be annoying. Some will even defend their rudeness and disresp