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A Prideful Generation vs Admitting their Weaknesses

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Welcome to Limitless.  Here’s my line of reasoning: God is highly interested in weak men. At the lowest where you feel like you’ve hit your breaking point, it piques God’s interest even more. Am I here to sputter rubbish. By no means. Let me show you my basis.  Consider Apostle Paul’s exchange with Jesus in 2Cor 12:8-10. There is a whole context to this, but let’s start from verse 8.  “Three times I begged the Lord to take it away. Each time He said, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.”  “So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me.” Verse 8 and God’s response to Apostle Paul in 9 seems to me like God wanted him to admit that he was weak.  My question now is, who on earth boasts about their weaknesses?  I think I have an idea- someone who has admitted that she is a weak woman, and who would allow Christ’s strength to be perfected in her weaknesses.  For the past few weeks, I have had lots of “God, I admit that I

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Photo from Muhil Mohan on Unsplash.  Welcome to Limitless.  I shuffle between consciousness and the sleep world, forcing myself to sleep in just a bit more because it’s my day off. Morolake, give this body some extra little break.  Then, I receive a call. Hoping it’s not a work call, I lazily pick up my phone, “oh it’s my dad”… I check the time, 7:45am. Why so early? Okay, I think he is returning my call that he missed yesterday. He called to give an update of things. Perfect. I dropped my phone and flickered my eyes from object to object in my apartment. I stare intently at the bottle of groundnut sitting pretty on my island. I really need to cook, or I might just keep living on bread and those two-bite chocolate croissants which is bad because believe it or not, I’ve been gaining weight. Impressive.  I sit and wonder if this is the new life to embrace. This hectic, busy, adult life. Every day is a dramatic one, and most likely a rollercoaster. Am I embracing this new scenery? Should

Loneliness: A Recipe for Relationship Strains

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Photo from Patryk Sobczack on Unsplash.  Welcome to Limitless!  I was watching a Q and A session with TrueTalkwithTED, and one of the questions they dealt with was on loneliness and completeness. Their answers made so much sense.  I find that loneliness is one thing that we need to deal with before getting into a relationship. It might often not be the case, but getting into a relationship because you are lonely is a recipe for relationship strains. I would rather get used to my own company and be content with my single season than impose my ‘loneliness’ on another human.  I guess that’s why there’s a difference between aloneness and loneliness.  I find that some people place so much of a high expectation on their partner in order to solve that loneliness. Then, they discover that it’s not working, and they start to think their partner is not giving their best. lol. You sure about that?  You’ve just gotta be comfortable with your own company. Most times, people who have loneliness issu

At the Detriment of my Ego

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Welcome to Limitless!  I’m the chief of not wanting to inconvenience other people with my issues.  Let’s start from my church story. It was tough for me to get used to the transportation arrangement at my current church.  After a few Sundays, my pastor’s wife told me to go and meet a certain person, so I could ride to and from church with them.  I almost fainted when she asked me to do this. I didn’t bulge though. Why should I trouble the innocent people? The question was coupled with the fact that I found it really embarrassing. ‘God abeg o, before they think someone is a pity case’. These were the sort of thoughts going on in my head.  Anyways, my pastor’s wife being who she is said, “what happened? Abi I should go and tell him for you?” I nodded hesitantly, and she went ahead to ask them.  That was the first time I had to accept an “inconveniencing” type of help in my church.  Second, my parents came visiting last year, and my mum spent more time with me. One of the numerous things

Self-Criticism

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Welcome to Limitless  ~ I’m one of those people who analyze a lot.  If we’ve ever had a conversation, or discussion, chances are that I got back home, rewound to the conversation, and analyzed both my responses and yours. I also replayed the words you said, the way you said it, along with what I replied with and the manner in which I responded.  Sometimes, I wonder why I’m wired that way because I know there are some people who do not take life so seriously. Lol.  This trait is a strength. It is a strength because I’m able to reflect on my actions, be sensitive to other people’s emotions, be sensitive to body language, control my tone, and watch what I say to other people.  But, there are also downsides. Self-criticism is one of them.  I understand self-criticism to be disapproval of the way I handled a situation or judging myself based on my perceived faults.  For instance, I accidentally step on someone, I apologize immediately, and the person accepts my apology. However, when I get

The “Thank You” Culture

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Welcome to Limitless!  The rate at which people are entitled these days is crazy. Maybe we should even talk about that one day. I know you are trying your best, but, sometimes it doesn’t hurt to say thank you or appreciate what someone does or is doing for you.  Let’s concentrate more on relationships and friendships. Sometimes, it might be easy to say thank you when people do obvious things for you. What about the little things in relationships? The things that seem so abysmal like a friend always being there when you need to talk. Do you ever thank them or you feel entitled to their time because they are your friend?  Do you thank your partner when they do something so little that could tend to be overlooked? Sometimes, people feel unappreciated in relationships, they feel unseen, and they feel unheard. Do you thank your partner, or you do not because ‘you would do the same for them’? Yes, you would do the same for them; we agree, but thank them first.  Do you ever thank them for bri

And you call yourself a Christian?

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Welcome to Limitless. ~ “And you call yourself a Christian?” This statement just annoys me sometimes, especially when it’s made by people who have pushed you to the farthest part of the wall.  How can you annoy me so much, and you expect me not to react because you know that I’m a Christian; taking advantage of my Christianity.  I was watching a short film called Faceless on YouTube, and the lady appeared to be a quick tempered person because of how she responded to people’s insults. If you listened to the insults, you would wonder how people can be so uncouth.  The most annoying are the ones that call themselves blunt. Are you blunt or are you just simply ill-mannered? If I match your energy now, you’ll say “and she calls herself a Christian”, “fear all these people that have Bible verses in their bio and carry Jesus on their head”. Blah blah.  Anyways, I’ve come to the reasonable conclusion that annoying people will always be annoying. Some will even defend their rudeness and disresp

Relax- A Peek into my Head

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Welcome to Limitless!  *Laughs in stress. This week has been a lot. I’ve overused and exhausted all of my social battery and I’m thinking of the ways that I can limit my social interaction today, which is Sunday. Lol. Forget my online/social presence, I am definitely not a social butterfly.  In fact, I still get shy when people comment on something I posted or wrote online when they see me in person. I really have to get used to that, I guess. Everything I do, professionally, at church, and online are almost counter-my actual-personality. Lol. I just coined a word.  I see it as God pulling me out of my shell and teaching me some things…  Lol. Do I sound too deep?😂 I don’t think so.  I just have to gist you guys about this chinchin that I tried to bake yesterday😂 which still feels like today because it’s 1am and I’m still awake. I wanted to bake six cups, I had started mixing the dry ingredients when I realized I had no eggs.  I had seen this day in a dream a while back. I baked chinc

Is Compromise in Relationships Realistic?

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Welcome to Limitless!  I was about to get on the train yesterday when I saw this guy on a phone call smiling sheepishly, about to get on the train too.  We boarded, and apparently he had been talking with his wife or fiancé (I’m assuming) whom he was meeting on the train because he gave her the deepest kiss on the cheek when he saw her. She is probably not a PDA  person because she squirmed and shook her head after. Lollll. They talked and laughed all through their ride that they almost missed their stop. They scampered as they saw that the train’s door was about to close at their stop. My eyes followed them as they got off the train.  Meanwhile, the lady across me turned to look at the couple too. We both knowingly laughed out loud at the drama that just ensued.  She fawned at how cute the couple were and she recounted everything that happened to me not knowing that I had been watching too😂.  Something about her struck me though. She had the most beautiful ivory black skin perfectly

Nigerians in Canada Speak on their First Culture Shocks

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Photo from Guillaume Jaillet on Unsplash  Welcome to Limitless!  Yayyy! I’m excited for this one. A huge thank you to everyone that contributed to this. I really appreciate it!  Here’s what some Nigerians in Canada experienced as their first culture shocks.  1. A.M- Air.  This one is a shocker because this person is Canadian, but I’m guessing she is talking about the poor air quality we had last summer. The air was smokey and humid as a result of wild fires; that wasn’t fun. This probably came as a shock to her having lived in Canada her whole life.  2. F.O- People find it disrespectful when you say sir or ma. 😂😂😂. I was shocked too o. Let me even gist you guys. That’s how one day, my new coworker who just migrated from a non-African country kept on calling my business owner “Sir” or would put Mr. in front of his name. It was so awkward. But, I understood where she was coming from. The owner had to tell her that his name is just his name and there was no need for the extra Sir or Mr