Limitless

Welcome to Limitless!  I’m the chief of not wanting to inconvenience other people with my issues.  Let’s start from my church story. It was tough for me to get used to the transportation arrangement at my current church.  After a few Sundays, my pastor’s wife told me to go and meet a certain person, so I could ride to and from church with them.  I almost fainted when she asked me to do this. I didn’t bulge though. Why should I trouble the innocent people? The question was coupled with the fact that I found it really embarrassing. ‘God abeg o, before they think someone is a pity case’. These were the sort of thoughts going on in my head.  Anyways, my pastor’s wife being who she is said, “what happened? Abi I should go and tell him for you?” I nodded hesitantly, and she went ahead to ask them.  That was the first time I had to accept an “inconveniencing” type of help in my church.  Second, my parents came visiting last year, and my mum spent more time w...

Welcome to Limitless  ~ I’m one of those people who analyze a lot.  If we’ve ever had a conversation, or discussion, chances are that I got back home, rewound to the conversation, and analyzed both my responses and yours. I also replayed the words you said, the way you said it, along with what I replied with and the manner in which I responded.  Sometimes, I wonder why I’m wired that way because I know there are some people who do not take life so seriously. Lol.  This trait is a strength. It is a strength because I’m able to reflect on my actions, be sensitive to other people’s emotions, be sensitive to body language, control my tone, and watch what I say to other people.  But, there are also downsides. Self-criticism is one of them.  I understand self-criticism to be disapproval of the way I handled a situation or judging myself based on my perceived faults.  For instance, I accidentally step on someone, I apologize immediately, and the person accept...

Welcome to Limitless!  The rate at which people are entitled these days is crazy. Maybe we should even talk about that one day. I know you are trying your best, but, sometimes it doesn’t hurt to say thank you or appreciate what someone does or is doing for you.  Let’s concentrate more on relationships and friendships. Sometimes, it might be easy to say thank you when people do obvious things for you. What about the little things in relationships? The things that seem so abysmal like a friend always being there when you need to talk. Do you ever thank them or you feel entitled to their time because they are your friend?  Do you thank your partner when they do something so little that could tend to be overlooked? Sometimes, people feel unappreciated in relationships, they feel unseen, and they feel unheard. Do you thank your partner, or you do not because ‘you would do the same for them’? Yes, you would do the same for them; we agree, but thank them first.  Do you ever...

Welcome to Limitless. ~ “And you call yourself a Christian?” This statement just annoys me sometimes, especially when it’s made by people who have pushed you to the farthest part of the wall.  How can you annoy me so much, and you expect me not to react because you know that I’m a Christian; taking advantage of my Christianity.  I was watching a short film called Faceless on YouTube, and the lady appeared to be a quick tempered person because of how she responded to people’s insults. If you listened to the insults, you would wonder how people can be so uncouth.  The most annoying are the ones that call themselves blunt. Are you blunt or are you just simply ill-mannered? If I match your energy now, you’ll say “and she calls herself a Christian”, “fear all these people that have Bible verses in their bio and carry Jesus on their head”. Blah blah.  Anyways, I’ve come to the reasonable conclusion that annoying people will always be annoying. Some will even defend their r...

Welcome to Limitless!  *Laughs in stress. This week has been a lot. I’ve overused and exhausted all of my social battery and I’m thinking of the ways that I can limit my social interaction today, which is Sunday. Lol. Forget my online/social presence, I am definitely not a social butterfly.  In fact, I still get shy when people comment on something I posted or wrote online when they see me in person. I really have to get used to that, I guess. Everything I do, professionally, at church, and online are almost counter-my actual-personality. Lol. I just coined a word.  I see it as God pulling me out of my shell and teaching me some things…  Lol. Do I sound too deep?😂 I don’t think so.  I just have to gist you guys about this chinchin that I tried to bake yesterday😂 which still feels like today because it’s 1am and I’m still awake. I wanted to bake six cups, I had started mixing the dry ingredients when I realized I had no eggs.  I had seen this day in a drea...

Welcome to Limitless!  I was about to get on the train yesterday when I saw this guy on a phone call smiling sheepishly, about to get on the train too.  We boarded, and apparently he had been talking with his wife or fiancé (I’m assuming) whom he was meeting on the train because he gave her the deepest kiss on the cheek when he saw her. She is probably not a PDA  person because she squirmed and shook her head after. Lollll. They talked and laughed all through their ride that they almost missed their stop. They scampered as they saw that the train’s door was about to close at their stop. My eyes followed them as they got off the train.  Meanwhile, the lady across me turned to look at the couple too. We both knowingly laughed out loud at the drama that just ensued.  She fawned at how cute the couple were and she recounted everything that happened to me not knowing that I had been watching too😂.  Something about her struck me though. She had the most beautifu...

Photo from Guillaume Jaillet on Unsplash  Welcome to Limitless!  Yayyy! I’m excited for this one. A huge thank you to everyone that contributed to this. I really appreciate it!  Here’s what some Nigerians in Canada experienced as their first culture shocks.  1. A.M- Air.  This one is a shocker because this person is Canadian, but I’m guessing she is talking about the poor air quality we had last summer. The air was smokey and humid as a result of wild fires; that wasn’t fun. This probably came as a shock to her having lived in Canada her whole life.  2. F.O- People find it disrespectful when you say sir or ma. 😂😂😂. I was shocked too o. Let me even gist you guys. That’s how one day, my new coworker who just migrated from a non-African country kept on calling my business owner “Sir” or would put Mr. in front of his name. It was so awkward. But, I understood where she was coming from. The owner had to tell her that his name is just his name and there was no...

Welcome to Limitless!  I firmly believe that as much as there are love languages in relationships, they also apply to friendships.  I posted on my story some time ago about how I was going to start writing thoughtful notes about friends and family on their birthdays if I wanted to. I would be doing this regardless of the length of their birthday wish or whatever they posted on my own birthday.  You see, I had come from a place of going to see how other people wished me a happy birthday or the energy they put in while wishing me to determine how I would wish them. And it started when I noticed that I would type really long messages about friends, and they would either trivialize the messages I send or give zero energy on my own birthday.  I took down the story talking about the issue because it looked really petty. But really, I was just responding to unreciprocated affection, or let’s say ill-reciprocated affection.  The thing now is, I have noticed that people ...

Welcome to Limitless! And happy third month, hehe!  ~ Reallyyyy! This adulthood is not for the weak. The bills are billing and the upkeep is upkeeping🤣. Yeah, can you tell I’m a Gen Z yet?! Everything is everythinging😂😂.  I was talking to one of my guys on Saturday and he was like he’s thinking about what he would eat when he gets home. I actually laughed out and shook my head. These are the issues. You’ve just gotta look after yourself. If you decide to drink garri and sleep, no one will question you. Regardless, you still have to fix a meal by yourself if you would like to participate in the eating experience😀. What? You would order a meal? In my opinion, it’s not even cost-effective for this adulthood financial journey. It’s just better to cook your own food; you save more money, and you know what you are eating that way. I mean occasional food orders are very needed.  I personally order a meal when I’m sick, achieved a feat, or I’m superrr lazy to cook and have no...

Welcome to Limitless!  I’ve backspaced so many times, and I just keep thinking of what to write. It’s like having so many things in your head, but you don’t know which exactly to pick. It do be like that sometimes, so I’m just going with the flow. Okay, delete that. Let’s pretend I’m perfect😄.  Let’s talk about My First Culture Shocks in Canada.  First culture shock for me when I came to Canada was “oh, I actually need to wear socks”.  Photo from Kate Laine on Unsplash  I always wondered why people in colder continents wore socks in their houses whenever I saw pictures and videos of them. Is it aesthetics or are they wearing it for aesthetics? Or is it the same reason people wear bathroom slippers back in Nigeria? Anyways, I got a firsthand answer. No one taught me to go throw a pair of socks on by the time the “inside cold” hit my leg. Apparently, the feet and palms get colder faster.  Second culture shock was liquid milk.  Photo from  Nikolai C...