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At the Detriment of my Ego

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Welcome to Limitless!  I’m the chief of not wanting to inconvenience other people with my issues.  Let’s start from my church story. It was tough for me to get used to the transportation arrangement at my current church.  After a few Sundays, my pastor’s wife told me to go and meet a certain person, so I could ride to and from church with them.  I almost fainted when she asked me to do this. I didn’t bulge though. Why should I trouble the innocent people? The question was coupled with the fact that I found it really embarrassing. ‘God abeg o, before they think someone is a pity case’. These were the sort of thoughts going on in my head.  Anyways, my pastor’s wife being who she is said, “what happened? Abi I should go and tell him for you?” I nodded hesitantly, and she went ahead to ask them.  That was the first time I had to accept an “inconveniencing” type of help in my church.  Second, my parents came visiting last year, and my mum spent more time with me. One of the numerous things

Self-Criticism

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Welcome to Limitless  ~ I’m one of those people who analyze a lot.  If we’ve ever had a conversation, or discussion, chances are that I got back home, rewound to the conversation, and analyzed both my responses and yours. I also replayed the words you said, the way you said it, along with what I replied with and the manner in which I responded.  Sometimes, I wonder why I’m wired that way because I know there are some people who do not take life so seriously. Lol.  This trait is a strength. It is a strength because I’m able to reflect on my actions, be sensitive to other people’s emotions, be sensitive to body language, control my tone, and watch what I say to other people.  But, there are also downsides. Self-criticism is one of them.  I understand self-criticism to be disapproval of the way I handled a situation or judging myself based on my perceived faults.  For instance, I accidentally step on someone, I apologize immediately, and the person accepts my apology. However, when I get

The “Thank You” Culture

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Welcome to Limitless!  The rate at which people are entitled these days is crazy. Maybe we should even talk about that one day. I know you are trying your best, but, sometimes it doesn’t hurt to say thank you or appreciate what someone does or is doing for you.  Let’s concentrate more on relationships and friendships. Sometimes, it might be easy to say thank you when people do obvious things for you. What about the little things in relationships? The things that seem so abysmal like a friend always being there when you need to talk. Do you ever thank them or you feel entitled to their time because they are your friend?  Do you thank your partner when they do something so little that could tend to be overlooked? Sometimes, people feel unappreciated in relationships, they feel unseen, and they feel unheard. Do you thank your partner, or you do not because ‘you would do the same for them’? Yes, you would do the same for them; we agree, but thank them first.  Do you ever thank them for bri

And you call yourself a Christian?

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Welcome to Limitless. ~ “And you call yourself a Christian?” This statement just annoys me sometimes, especially when it’s made by people who have pushed you to the farthest part of the wall.  How can you annoy me so much, and you expect me not to react because you know that I’m a Christian; taking advantage of my Christianity.  I was watching a short film called Faceless on YouTube, and the lady appeared to be a quick tempered person because of how she responded to people’s insults. If you listened to the insults, you would wonder how people can be so uncouth.  The most annoying are the ones that call themselves blunt. Are you blunt or are you just simply ill-mannered? If I match your energy now, you’ll say “and she calls herself a Christian”, “fear all these people that have Bible verses in their bio and carry Jesus on their head”. Blah blah.  Anyways, I’ve come to the reasonable conclusion that annoying people will always be annoying. Some will even defend their rudeness and disresp