Emotional Sensitivity

As much as your words have the power to comfort, they also have the power to crush a person’s soul. 

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Have you ever thought about why some friendships or relationships end because of just one word? Did you know that just your words can leave a lifetime damage on someone? 

However, I believe there is a way we can have better friendships and relationships, by being sensitive to people’s emotions.

Thus, there are are some words we should not say to people because whether they react or not, those words could cut deep. 

1. “You’ll be fine”

I know you are already like ‘👀wait what? What’s bad in that?’ Okay, hear me out. There are some times that it might be okay to say this word. 

But, imagine you vent to a close friend about something, you pour out all your heart, you are sad, weak and on the brink of tears. Then, they just give you a cold “you’ll be fine” and walk out. 

I consider the word inappropriate because it gives me the vibe of “deal with it yourself, it happens to everyone so you’ll be fine”. It’s like you are invalidating their emotions. It’s almost the same as saying “sorry” to someone who is hurt emotionally. 

So, let’s say you are lost for words and you don’t know what to do or say to someone in an emotional wreck or someone venting to you. You can still say the “you’ll be fine” in a better way. For instance, after the person vents, you look into their eyes, hold their hands and say “hey. I know you’ll be fine”. 

However, it’s just better not to leave a cold “you’ll be fine”. 

You could say this instead. “It’s okay to feel that way. I understand what you are going through, and I really hope you get better.” 

2. “You are fat”

Here, you are fat stands for all the inappropriate things you could say about people’s bodies. Commenting about their weight, height, facial problems e.g acne or eczema, the size of their breasts or bumbum, is just plain inappropriate. 

The better way you could say it is not to say it at all. 

I assure you that they’ve probably seen themselves in the mirror and know what they have going on. So, your comment isn’t needed. 

To be honest, we don’t know what people are going through and how they are dealing with whatever they have going on, so we have to be sensitive. 

Therefore, before you tell someone to eat more because they are slim or eat less because they are fat, dead the idea. 

3. Subtle rude remarks 

You know those words that you don’t say directly but you know they are wrong. The ones that you say and the other person says “so you are using style to insult me”. Those are subtle remarks. 

Who you are talking to might not understand or some people might just ignore it. But, trust me, I notice subtle insults and I’m sure they are 1million other people like me. 

Sometimes, you might see it as a joke. So, you won’t understand when they get angry. However, even jokes have the power to hurt someone. What you find funny is what might deeply pain someone. 

It could also come from false sympathy. False sympathy is when you really don’t feel for people but you are pretending to. So, you let out a subtle remark. 

For instance, someone is telling you how they’ve been trying to have a baby, then you say something like “I’m so sorry. You could always have pets or adopt”. Really? Just don’t do that. 

Let’s be more sensitive. 

4. “When are you getting pregnant?”

Here, this statement stands for all remarks that have to do with timing. Are you pregnant? You’re still at home, so no job yet? When are you having a baby? Putting unnecessary pressure on people. 

If they wanted to have a baby or could have a baby, you think they wouldn’t? Why do you feel asking would change anything? 

Timing remarks, as I would I like to call it, have immense power. We do not know their struggles or what they are going through so it’s just best to not say anything. 

Let’s stop putting pressure on people. 

5. Unwarranted advice

You too think about it. Do you know how many insensitive people would have told an obese person to hit the gym?

If they do not ask you, don’t give them any advice. If the situation is not critical enough, don’t give an unwarranted advice. 

We must know when to keep our pieces of advice to ourselves even if they are at the tips of our tongues. 

Your unwarranted advice has the power to hurt people and make them feel like they aren’t doing enough. This could mess with people’s mental health. 

So, before you give your next unwarranted advice, think about it well. 

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Do you know any other words you think we shouldn’t say to people? Let us know in the comment section! 

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