Spotting Red Flags!

Wait! Stop! Hollup! Don't go there! It will end in tears.

Hello darling! I hope you had a fruitful week. Welcome to your resting place! 

Today, I'd be telling you about spotting red flags before a relationship. Red flags are warning signs that reveal why the relationship you are about to start won't work. It could also be signs that show why you should get out of that relationship immediately. These are 4 red flags that are very easy to spot: 

1. No vibes/ Lack of energy: This is when their energy does not match your energy. You send your bomb pictures and they are just like 'nice pictures'. Hello? Any stranger could say that, don't I deserve hypes too? Sigh! It could also be that the way they talk or chat is always monotone. No form of ginger! You start the conversation with so much energy and they reply you with a very flat tone. You guys wiĺl not just flow because they can't hold lively conversations. This should not be ignored. It's either you straighten out with the person or start cutting them off because if you don't flow, what's the point?

2. Ghosting: This is a situation whereby they randomly disappear mostly when you guys just had some sort of chemistry and you thought 'oh, this is leading somewhere'. This is a big warning sign because it leaves you confused and disoriented. Most times, you start doubting yourself and over thinking why they disappeared. In most cases, they just strut back like nothing happened. It always baffles me; like  'Wow! You mean you were comfortable with not talking to me for a whole week? Bravo!' Ghosting is bad behaviour and it is a big red flag. If you know you really like the person, it is best to talk about how you are uncomfortable with it. Imagine you are in the relationship already, it will turn to a normal thing for them just because you've not spoken about it. I mean if the feeling was mutual, they would at least be trying to tell you why they would be going offline or if you won't be seeing them. 

3. Toxic traits: These are unhealthy attributes that you notice about them. Three major examples of toxic traits are being manipulative, controlling and inconsistent. It is an absolute no no if you see any of these traits. Manipulative people are so cunny. They try to affect your behavior or emotions to their own advantage. They always paint situations to seem like you are the one at fault when in fact, they are the ones to blame. They always try to play victim. It is unhealthy when people can't take responsibility for their actions. 

Also, a controlling person is a huge red flag. You've not even entered the relationship and they are already dictating what you must do everytime. This is a sign that it's gonna end in tears my dear. 

Lastly, inconsistency is when the other party does not put effort into communicating with you. It could also be that they always seem confused about their feelings. Today, they are so in love with you while tomorrow, they seem so distant. I'm sure you don't want to start a relationship where you'd be doubting yourself. So, you have to straighten it out or cut them off.

4. Communication issues: You can recognize this red flag when they have a problem with keeping up with you. It's either they are not a 'text' person or they are not a 'call' person. You can actually reach a compromise because they just have to adjust if they really like you. Also, they intentionally take hours to reply your text most times making you feel like the jobless one. Meanwhile, you see them posting everywhere. 

Also, they never initiate conversations. So, it’s always like you are the one that is constantly trying to start a conversation making it look one-sided. Love will embarrass you!😂 A whole spec like you and someone is making you feel invisible. Sigh! 

Well, a solution for this red flag if you really like the person is to stop texting first. It might sound petty to you but that’s the way out. You have to stop making it seem like you are desperate for the person’s attention. You can try talking to them too. If you still don’t see any changes. Then, it’s high time you cut them off. 

Communication can also be excessive. A perfect example is excessive calls. Some people will not call you once or twice, if they don’t drain your battery with their calls, they won’t rest. Why? Do you want to spoil my phone?😂 You should really talk to them if you’ve noticed this trait and be firm in your correction. 

One thing you should not do is ignore these warning signs. Your mind will not be at rest if you saw these red flags and still go head on into the relationship. You guys will end up having disagreements every time and it might end in premium tears. Be warned! *Pen drops*😁

Thank you very much for reading. Drop a comment if you loved this. I hope you have a restful weekend! See you again in 7 days.😉